Things I Have Learned About Marriage

Warning: This post will be rather sappy.

I got married on July 31st 2010 to the most awesome man ever. We met online like true nerds through the game Neverwinter Nights. We were friends for years before we ever started dating. Which was difficult, since he was from the USA and I am from Canada. But for all those people out there that say long distance relationships can never work, my husband and I are proof that it can work. Anyway, when we started dating we had to travel back and forth and were only able to see each other every 3 or 4 months. Needless to say it was terrible. Super terrible. 5 days after we were married, he had to leave back to the states again. Not a fun time, but so worth it. Finally, we were able to go through the immigration process. That’s right, he gave up his country, friends and family for me because he didn’t want me to miss my family. Anyway, we have been married nearly 3 years now and here is a list of some of the things I have learned. I love being married. It is great.

– Be sappy! Tell each other you love each other a billion times a day. It never gets old.

– Have fights. Yell and argue, but make up really fast. Don’t hold on to arguments.

– Hold hands. I learned this from a very smart lady. She told me that you can’t be mad if you’re holding hands. Very true!

– Share everything with each other! Be it music, movies or your dreams. Share it all.

– Go out and take adventures. Even if you are just going for a walk.

– Communication. Always communicate. This was always difficult for me. I am one of those chicks who says: “I’m fine.” When I’m really not.

– Love each other for your faults and your strengths. Don’t get annoyed by little things.

– Be comfortable in silence. Have your space and don’t be offended if your significant other needs personal time. We all do!

– Laugh. Always remember to laugh!

I have more, but I don’t want to bore you. Just wanted to share about my marriage randomly. I got married at 19 to the greatest man in the world and it was the best decision I’ve ever made.


13 thoughts on “Things I Have Learned About Marriage

  1. No one is happier and more grateful than I that you found something so amazing. You deserve so much happiness. Granted, I thought you were nutz, but clearly you are wiser than me! I love you girly.

  2. Lovely post, Lea. I’m so glad you’re happy, it shows through. And many of the things you’ve listed have helped my marriage of almost 14 years stay happy too. Two of our vows (paraphrased) we to always encourage each other, and to believe in you even when you doubt yourself. It is not always easy, but it’s always wonderful!

    • Absolutely! That is definitely a big one. Not always easy, but it is great to know there is someone who will always be there for you no matter what. Glad you’re happy too! 😀

  3. Nice post. I can definitely relate to friendship as a solid foundation for marriage… my husband and I met when we were 15 and 16, and we were best friends for years before it occurred to us that we wanted to be more. I call us the un-high school sweethearts. 🙂

  4. Aww, that was a lovely post. I can relate because I’m in a long-distance relationship myself, planning to get married by the end of this year. 🙂 Love the holding hands tip!

  5. Lea – that was beautiful! I’m very happy for you and your husband! It sounds like the two of you are on the right track! We are going on 33 years and a lot of what you have already learned works very well to keep a marriage strong – especially the holding hands part! And saying I love you, over and over again, every day, and remember the little things can sometimes be just as important as the big things in life – please, and thank-you go a long way in a good marriage! 🙂
    I wish all the very best for the two of you! 🙂

  6. Lovely post! I totally agree with holding hands whenever you can. After almost 24 years of marriage, my husband and I still hold hands. It’s a nice discreet way to show affection, but it’s also the best way for us to show support. Whether it’s holding hands while watching a movie or stroking his fingers during a particularly stressful family event, it’s my favorite way to communicate with him.

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